September 24, 2011
When I meet with couples I always try to keep things as laid back as possible. No one enjoys business meetings, myself included, and so my consultations tend to happen over drinks somewhere comfortable. An anti-business meeting as it were.
But that’s not the primary reason I like to keep my consultations low key. The primary reason is this:
You really don’t get to know someone all that well if you meet them in an artificial environment. A traditional consultation is basically a two-sided interview, which is about as artificial as it gets. (When is the last time you just happened into an interview?) Since my work centers on each couple’s personality, on their story, on what makes them unique, it’s important we meet somewhere they feel at ease. I don’t even like to think of it as a meeting. I approach it as if I’m just hanging out with a couple of friends. This is why my consultations tend to last a long time. And the reining champs for Longest Consultation Ever are Jaime and John-Mark.
When we got together earlier this year we started around 7pm. We had a few beers to break the ice, then ordered a few burgers because we were hungry, then had a few more beers because why not, and by that point time was flying. We finally called it quits just before midnight. If it weren’t a school night (Jaime is a teacher) we may have carried on even longer.
What’s the point of telling you all this? I’m not sure. But I will say this: Jaime and John-Mark are a lot of fun and really make me love what I do. It’s wonderful to do something that results in becoming good friends with new people you might not otherwise meet. Here is their film.